inspiration

A good parenting is very important for a child because he gets most of his attitudes during his childhood by interacting with his parents. Parents do their best for their kids based on the knowledge developed by them and by looking at other parents. i.e., by inspiring from other parents.

Inspiration - I like a dialog in the movie 'Jab we met'. The hero says to the heroine while meeting her after a long time  - "I use to take decisions on every situation by thinking how you would act on that situation." This is a great praising for her, here the hero is truly inspired by the heroine's cool attitude.

To teach others is great, others using the learning is incredible. Likewise, To be inspired is great, to inspire is incredible.

Sometimes we also think of others to find how not to handle the situation. I call it negative inspiration. These negative inspirations are stronger than normal inspiration because we know the consequence of it.

Back to parenting, Inspiration for parenting need not be from other parents only. Inspiration can be transferred from one form to another. Example, Dhoni's approach can be inspirational for someone who is not related to sports at all.

Below I have drafted some of the negative inspirations that comes to my mind at this movement:

* Never become unapproachable for your kids - give them opportunities to ask silly questions. You can ask some silly questions to them if required.
I will be happy every time someone asks me a silly question and they know it as a silly question, because that proves that I am easily approachable :)

* Never make the kid feel that  something he has done is not important especially when your kid has completed it just because you said that to be important.
This may be a tactic to make the next to do item the important one, but after 2-3 incidents everything will become unimportant for him.

* Never fail to praise your kids for small accomplishments. Also never never make the praising to look like artificial for them.

* Never make false promises to your kid such as "this year is very important for you, you need to work hard for this year only and by next year you can be free." Again this can only make them believe nothing is important.

* Never blame your child for your mistakes. Also never pressurize your kid after you making a mistake. Example, just because you ordered more ice creams in a restaurant you cannot ask your kid to eat them fast as it will late for the movie.

* Never forget that your child's failure is your failure.

* Never compete with your child to win him. Rather make him compete with and win you.

* Last but not the least - Never ask your kid to choose one after giving only one choice.